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Wow, No Wonder Feminists are So Angry

I was given the link to the following post, and I figured it would make me mad.  It did, briefly, and then it made me sad.  When you view the world with unnatural and impossible expectations,  You are bound to be absolutely miserable for the rest of your life:

misandry isn’t real, dudez

I’m a guy, and I need feminism. Not “men’s rights.” Feminism. Here is why.

Everything that MRAs talk about that men can’t do or are socially punished for arise directly and immediately from misogyny. Not “misandry.” Misogyny.

Whether I am expressing my emotions, playing with children, baking, having sex wherein I am penetrated in any way, wearing the wrong color, talking the wrong way, moving the wrong way, being sexually harassed/assaulted, or paying too little attention to looking like I’m not paying attention to how I look, when society punishes me or derides me or marginalizes me for these things, it is happening because they are things women, not men, are expected to do, and our society at large fucking hates women.

Has that sunk in yet?

Men, can you even think of a single goddamn way you have ever been mocked that wasn’t related to something that a misogynist society sees as feminizing? Even when large men are mocked for their bodies, they are referred to as having “man-boobs,” for fucks sake.

How do you expect to improve those things with “men’s rights?” What right are you fighting for? I can tell you what I think you’re fighting for. I think you’re fighting for the right to contain and control misogyny, and direct it back at women, where you think it belongs. You want to maintain your privilege but erase its consequences, and that’s why your movement is farcical; it’s a big fucking feedback loop. How do you expect men to be free from the peripheral effects of misogyny when you refuse to even fucking believe it’s real?

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This poor kid.

Dear Queer As In,

I'd like you to consider something, two things actually.  First, the behaviors you described for which you are ridiculed, are not generally "hated" behaviors.  Not in women anyway, because they are predominantly feminine behaviors.  Most people DO dislike feminine behaviors when those behaviors are exhibited by men.  And let me assure you, it is WOMEN who dislike feminine men, far more than men do.  Granted, men are more likely to be straightforward and vocal about their dislike, and while women may speak of it only in code words and euphemisms, women's emotions are more deeply triggered by the phenomenon.  I'll explain why soon.  

It's is obvious that you are a feminist, because you have accepted wholeheartedly one of the primary tenets upon which feminism depends: that there are no inborn sex-specific behavioral traits.  It has been proven over and over again that this is simply NOT TRUE.  While there are exceptions and variations, those exceptions and variations do not define the NORM, which is this:  There are sex-specific hormones and hormone combinations, and there are sex-specific differences in brain structure and body structure - beyond reproductive organs.  That means there must inevitably be sex-specific urges to behave in certain ways.  Some behaviors are naturally predominantly masculine and some are naturally predominantly feminine.  Feminism needs to deny (or at least downplay) this irrefutable truth, in order to tell both men and women that it is perfectly normal for women to act masculine and for men to act feminine.

Not surprisingly, our "lizard brains," the home of our instincts, reject this even as our conscious brains insist upon it.  Here is the result:

Normal heterosexual males are attracted to women with feminine behavioral traits, yet they are repelled by other males with feminine traits, because their lizard brains know that the behavior is attached to the wrong bodies. Normal hetero men are not sexually attracted to masculine traits, even when attached to feminine bodies.  Women don't seem to get this; they think there's "something wrong" with every man they meet who is not interested in their more masculine traits.  "Men are 'intimidated' by 'strong, powerful, independent, successful' women."  No.  They are not intimidated, they just aren't interested.  If they want to spend time with masculine people, they'll hang out with males.  Men want to mate with feminine women.  Shocking, I know.

The other side of the same coin is the foundation of misandry:  Women are taught from childhood that masculinity is bad; it's vulgar, it lights its fart and belches the alphabet.  It starts wars and kills people.  It rapes and beats women.  It makes millions of dollars and oppresses the poor.  Yet normal heterosexual women are sexually attracted to males who are masculine.  How miserable must these women be to need to be constantly on guard against their very own instincts, lest they actually find themselves liking (or God forbid, loving) that which society has deemed "bad."  And then it gets worse.  The men that women want to like and respect, because they display "feminine" behaviors, are repellent to women's lizard brains.  Women don't want to mate with those men.  They call them "creepy," or they friend-zone them.  No sex with feminine men (until the biological clock can no longer be ignored.  They may not be sexy, but being so "sensitive and kind," they'll probably make decent daddies, so sex with them can be tolerated.  If they make enough money.)  The reason this is integral to misandry, is that men can't win.  Women want to despise masculine men, and women can't help despising feminine men.  Of course, women can't win either, because now there's no such thing as "good" male mates for women.  How can feminists not be angry at the world?  For them, it sucks rocks!

The second thing I want you to consider is that while misogyny exists, it only exists in a tiny minority of men.  Most men love women.  They love women who act like women. They love femininity.  It is feminists, who are predominantly female, that despise femininity.  Perhaps you've noticed how feminists deride women who want to be happily married to masculine men, and who want nothing more than to raise children.  Society does not hate women.  Feminism hates women. The worst misogynists in Western Culture are feminist women.

How might the men's rights movement fix this?  It's simple.  But certainly not easy.  Guaranteeing men the same rights that women have, will make it a little less easy for women to openly practice misandry.  Men will be permitted to act like men, women will be permitted to act like women.  As we were designed.

Herding Hamsters

More fodder for the book and the blog.  The Letter has garnered almost 12,000 pageviews, and the comments are a goldmine of research topics.  Furthermore, they are helping me organize and prioritize my thoughts.  At first I was a little worried that some of the "objections" to my themes would actually be legitimate and logical.  I should have known better; if A Voice for Men, with thousands of readers, can't get a feminist to engage in reasoned debate (Challenge Unanswered) why would I?

Anyhamsterfest, here's another epic logical fail of a comment from the cushy land of make-believe, and my response to it:

Miss Kae OzNovember 30, 2012 1:52 AM

"DO NOT, under any circumstances, repress your sexuality. Your foremothers fought hard for your right to be promiscuous with no consequences; don’t you dare let their efforts go to waste. And since you’re not looking for a husband, there’s no need to sleep with only “good” men, is there? ‘Cuz badboyz are hawt! And nice guys are boring. Additionally, you have plenty of time to ride the best cocks you can find;"
Agreed! Oh wait. You meant this as a bad thing. Oh well, toe-may-toe/toe-mah-toe.
But if I am having all this sex, how am I also going to bed alone with my vibrator? And why is it it is the long term married women I know whose only sex is the vibrator and feel painfully alone and not the single women I know?

"Men are dropping out, Ladies. "
YOUR version of men, and it is about friggin time. We have been working over a century to get out from underneath the Neanderthal mentality and them finally dropping out will make it much easier for us all to finally try to achieve the ideal of being treated as human instead of a monogamous whore/hand maid bought and paid for by the man having the career we wish we had. Thank you for finally stopping pushing us back down on and stepping out of the way to make room for us at eye level with those not born and bred to have a limited view of our societal value.

The one thing that we do agree on is how the Patriarchy has been negative for men. The gender role ideals it perpetuates limits mens potential and gifts as much as womens. I do not agree that it has better for woman. Selling your independence for financial security is just a form of slavery. I would rather be a free pauper than a slave with a gilded cage. It is bad for both men and women. Men and women are so much more than the gender roles created in the days of Leave it to Beaver that try to pretend they have always been. We should not be born into boxes based on our genitals. We should each be able to explore individual potential.

p.s.
I have a hard time believing this is written by a female. The voice sounds distinctly male, especially when talking about sex. Just the tone.

*****

My response:    

You didn't read much of this page, did you?  Or are your reading comprehension skills really that poor?

So are you a Shero or a Booblet?  Tell me, if feminism is so pro-male, why is its root spelled f-e-m?  Oooh!  Oooh! I know!  Because it likes only feminine men?

I'm not going to be dragged into a middle-school (read: "girly") debate of inconsequential minutiae, but I will address a bit of the myth upon which your assumptions are based.

First off, read this:

http://shiningpearlsofsomething.blogspot.com/2012/08/womens-equality-day.html

Now, if feminism isn't anti-male, why are the results of MAINSTREAM feminism so repressive (dare I say "oppressive?") of men?

"But if I am having all this sex, how am I also going to bed alone with my vibrator?"

...again, reading comprehension?

You'll be able to have all the sex you want while you're young and supple, but along about 30-ish, when you're ready to "settle down,"  you will NOT be impressed by the caliber of men who are still interested in you used-up pussy.  Sex first, vibrator later.  M'kay?  Oh, and your female friend in a sexless marriage?  Either she's abnormal or he's abnormal.  Note the prefix "ab."  Outliers do not represent the norm.  I understand this is hard for indoctrinated femmies to understand, because your entire ideology is based upon the preferences of a minority of women, but try to stretch your atrophied brain.  Plus, I know, math is hard.

"We have been working over a century to get out from underneath the Neanderthal mentality"

Be careful what you wish for, dearie.  That neanderthal mentality is why you don't live in a grass hut, and aren't likely to die young.  I know you think masculine men are a pain in the ass, but masculine men pay most of your bills, one way or another, unless you are a VERY unusual woman.  If you have a high-paying private sector job, there is probably at least a half dozen men better qualified than you, who were denied that job so that it could be given to a woman, regardless of merit.  Unless of course you work in the sort of field that doesn't attract many men.  Then again, most of those fields are NOT well paid, but a few are.  And most of the female-centric fields that ARE highly paid, are almost entirely dependent upon either the income of the clientele's husbands, or upon the income of a clientele whose jobs are dependent on affirmative action or direct taxpayer funding.  Big fish, small pond.  The pond would dry up without "neanderthals."

It is that "neanderthal mentality" which keeps you safe when you leave home (built by men.)  That's right.  The majority of law enforcement officers (who often commit violence against men at your command) are men who chose their field because of their strong protective instincts. 

It is that "neanderthal mentality" which motivated men to build the cars/trains/buses you use to navigate the streets in relative safety, so you don't have to be exposed to the weather and to human predators on your way to work. 

It is that "neanderthal mentality" which built the government that collects the taxes and provides public sector jobs where women don't have to compete with men for employment.

Use your imagination.  Or better yet, hire a (male, armed) bodyguard and travel to a third world country where women AND MEN are not protected by government, from either the harsh realities of nature, or from human predators.  Try to visualize a world where YOU, and maybe a band of your pals, are responsible for every single aspect of your survival.  (And keep in mind that your "enemies" have plenty of pals as well.)  You might survive, but you would likely not prosper.  without the protection of those "neanderthals," people who are smarter, stronger, more ambitious, and more organized than you, would be helping themselves to your survival resources - so THEY could survive.

Feminism wants you to think that it's some sort of humanist ideal, but it simply could not exist if those "neanderthals" did not permit it.  Feminism is a social construct; it is a fantasy.  It's a totally cool swing set and fort in one's parents' securely fenced back yard.  It's a playhouse with a plastic tea set in the playroom.  Not one single aspect of feminism could exist without the protection of those who have the "neanderthal mentality." 

Are men perfect?  No.  Is it always fun to be supportive of the men who keep you warm and well-fed.  Hell no!  It's a fucking chore!  That's right, it's WORK, and it doesn't always feeeeeel rewarding.  (That's the true nature of work and you'd know that if you didn't live under the cozy protection of "neanderthals.")  Work is what gets you from one end of life to the other, and some days, work sucks.  The difference between men and women in modern society, is that women actually have the choice to avoid the most unpleasant types of work,

and men don't.

Men suck it up and do their share because nobody is going to do it for them.  Then they suck it up further and do most women's share - either because the government will jail them if the don't (and pay for it with their own tax dollars) or because they want a family and they understand that that (often sucky, unrewarding) WORK is required to support a family.

Miss Kae, I would guess that you are an urban or suburban teen or twentysomething who has never been responsible for much of anything (except maybe studying hard to succeed in the schools built and paid for by "neanderthals," and perhaps missing a few parties to work at a relatively easy job.)  Sadly, it's also possible that you are a chronologically mature woman who has the mentality of a suburban teen.  You see, there are plenty such women in existence because they have been sheltered from responsibility by "neanderthals."

"I have a hard time believing this is written by a female. The voice sounds distinctly male..."

Thank you.

Peter Makes Me Smile Again

Peter, at Bayou Renaissance Man, has posted another adorable video:
Popcorn Kittens

sheroescentral

First of all, Bluurrrgghh!  It's 3:15 a.m. and I prefer to be heading for bed at this hour, but I just crawled out of it to work the day shift - yuck!  Plus it's spay day for Pooka; might as well get it over with.  She's fitting in well with us and the cats, and turning out to be a wonderful little dog!

Yesterday, Matt Forney linked my Anonymous Letter post, causing its hits to top 10,000, and the number of  sites linking it jumped from 9 to 25.  Thanks, Matt!  (To those of you who dislike Matt, watch that young man closely.  He's brash and he gets really obnoxious, but he's smart, he's courageous, and he's taking risks and educating himself.  I predict a bright future for him.)

AnyholycrapI'vegoneviral, I had an interesting conversation with rather insightful woman in the comments section, and then I noticed an odd little gem in my traffic stats:
Hmmm. Teh Grrlz are watching...
This is the brilliance thus far from the ladies who call themselves "Sheroes:"

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I defriended someone who I had a huge crush on in high school. I used to respect him a lot and still thought well of him even though we've drifted over the last several years. He's gone all annoying white male libertarian in the last few years* and is now apparently a men's rights activist as well because he linked to this article:http://shiningpearlsofsomething.blogspot.com/2012/09/anonymous-letter.html?spref=fb And to that Fox article about the war on men that's been going around with comments about how right on they are. Here's a sample from the first piece: "They have the same job titles as you and they take home the same pay, but they work longer hours and they do harder work; they know that their productivity is why employers can afford to hire you to sit at a desk and shuffle papers. They know that if two drunken people have sex and both regret it in the morning, only one of them is a “rapist.” They know that “My Body/My Choice” actually means"My Body/My Choice/Your Wallet." They know that the minute they sign a marriage license, everything they own is yours, but nothing you own is theirs (except your debts) and you can walk away with cash and prizes, at any time, for any reason. Or for no reason at all." and "This is the gift that feminism has given to you – Independence. Scary, lonely, bitter, potentially impoverished Independence. For yourselves and for any children you may have. Most of you won’t blame feminism though; you’ll blame Male Privilege (which doesn’t exist.) You’ll blame The Patriarchy (which always gave women a far better deal than it gave men.) You will stamp your feet, flip your hair, and blame anything except the single cultural force that has devoted itself to suppressing and controlling masculinity. And you’ll go home alone every night to your cats, your Facebook Friends, and your vibrator. I sure hope that’s what you want." I couldn't even bring myself to post a really annoying, trollish comment before defriending because I'm kind of sad that he's turned out to be such a douche.  Do you have your own recent stories of jerks?" "man that is a lot of stupid. I made the mistake of reading the whole article you linked to, and yeah, I don't really have any words. " "Tell me about it! I am hoping so hard it was not a woman who wrote that because good grief." "Pretty sure it was a woman! And on top of everything else (what the ####), she calls her son "kind of hot." Um, eww." "I always get this feeling of "I really shouldn't click on this link. It's just going to make me angry" I never listen." ">I couldn't even bring myself to post a really annoying, trollish >comment before defriending because I'm kind of sad that he's turned >out to be such a douche.  I think you summed up your level of disgust nicely right there. Also, that article you linked to? OMG WHAT. I JUST CAN'T EVEN. I'm sorry he turned out to be a douche. How disappointing." **************  Heads buried deep in the sand.  "Sheroes" indeed.  Pure irony.

So We "Went to See a Man About a Dog..."

We don't "replace" our pets.  That will never be possible.  However, we have room in our home, our budget and our hearts for at least one dog that nobody else wants.  We brought one home today.

Meet "Pooka," a young female beagle/dachshund mix, and our first ever "small dog."

.....and witness Scooter's world class stinkeye, when she met Pooka:

As yet, Lizzie isn't terribly pleased either, but a rather slow-moving seventeen pound pooch is hardly a threat.  I anticipate a fairly peaceful transition.

Best of all, Pooka adores WolfAlpha.

Masculine Defiance! On TV!

Well, until Toyota pulled the commercial.  Read Rollo Tomasino's take on the kerfluffle surrounding this:

November 16, 2012

Glitches in the Matrix

By Rollo Tomassi

Every so often there’s a visible glitch in the feminine Matrix. 

I'm running late for work and don't have time to embed the video, so I copy/pasted the image. Go watch it at The Rational Male.