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"Bubble Gum
Posted: March 10, 2013 Filed under: Girl distractions, Wisdom 2 Comments »
was talking with a girl at the hospital last night and she knows about the site asked me about the sexual double standard. it was the typical, “why aren’t guys sluts for banging a bunch of girls but if a girl fucks a bunch of guys she’s a total slut.” *sigh*
even with the key/lock analogy, i wasn’t getting through to her. the hamster was strong with this one. so i had too change tactics and go in for a direct assault-
“marrying or committing to a slut is like finding a piece of chewed bubble gum on a park bench and deciding that it’d be a good idea to put it in your mouth.”
this got her. she made the face. you know the face, the face that shows a light bulb went off. she tried to throw it back at me by saying that applies to men as well. and i simply told her that the analogy doesn’t apply to men because in terms of relationships, women don’t care about gum. the more chewed the gum, obviously the better it is since everyone wants a piece.
i FINALLY got through to her, and i asked her how old she was and if she’s had at least 5 sex partners. she admitted she had and she was 19. i asked her if it were safe to say she typically dates 2-3 guys in a year. she again, said that that sounded about right.
“then, by averages, you’ll have slept with 15 men by the time she’s 24 (her prime in the SMP as i explained to her) IF she were to only date 2 guys a year and 20 if it were 3. “you my dear are on the carousel. the cock carousel. now i’m only including BF’s. i’m not counting the miscellaneous hook-up you might have. and see, the guys you’re turning down now. the ones that are probably marriage minded, will probably want NOTHING to do with you when you decide you want to “settle down”. part of my site is to teach guys how to spot the chewed bubble gum from the fresh pieces. and i tell men they need to post-pone marriage until they get in their 30′s, because then, they have more options. and you’re natural hypergamous instincts (had to explain hypergamy to her) means the old you are, the less likely the men you’re attracted to will want you. since, you know, she’s chewed gum on a park bench. and since a 32 year old guy typically has his shit together better than a 26 yo guy, that 32 yo man has MANY more options than a 30 yo woman. hell, i haven’t had more than a FWB deal with women in their 30′s for the last 4-5 years. the women i date now tend to be 19-24. and i’m damn near 40.”
this had her on the ropes. i explained to her that this indeed the time to figure what she needs with a guy, and i know all to well that a former slut can see the err in her ways and make a change and doesn’t mean she’s rooned, but….that her partner number counts to quality men. she of course replied that she’ll be maried by then. i el-oh-el’d and told her i’d bet money she’ll end up pregnant, then get married, then divorce in about 5 years. that i had seen this happen NUMEROUS times in my 19 years in the military. AND after the marriage ends, she probably be close to 30 and her chances to find another long term partner will diminish significantly. then told her the story of my friend back in san deezy. how the SAME.EXACT.THING happened to her. she’s now 29 and she’s finally to a point where she’s sick of men and instead will concentrate on her son. she was basically a pump and dump for every guy she dated after her divorce. her relationships didn’t last more than 6 months (hello, my “rule of 3′s) after her marriage ended. the i NAILED her-
“but of course, this won’t happen to YOU right?” she said nothing. i told her i wasn’t trying to be a dick or to scare her, but just wanted her to be aware of the reality of the modern SMP. from a man who’s knee deep in it and has a LOT of experience with this shit. all the emails i get from women, reading the testimony of women and men who’ve been through divorce. i can only tell her the truth, what she does with it is on her. “just food for thought, you do the dishes girl.”
chewed bubble gum is my new go-to analogy for the SMP in regards to partner count."
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Girls want what girls want, and guys want what guys want. If a gal spends her 20's pursuing "freedom and adventure" because that's what she wants, she has no business coming back later and criticizing men because she's no longer what they want.
well thank you. i's flattered.
ReplyDeleteOne of the many reasons I've never remarried.
ReplyDeleteI don't want a man who is a chewed up piece of gum. Elvis Aaron Schwarz has been with very few women, and I'm grateful. I know he's glad that I'm relatively inexperienced. Both sexes should save themselves for a forever person. Sadly, outside forces often interfere with forever, but we need to come as close to forever as we can.
ReplyDeleteLove,
Janie
And now imagine the chewed up piece of gum has unilateral power to end the business relationship and steal your kids, house and half your income at the point of a government gun.
ReplyDeleteNot even the dumbest attorney would recommend that a man sign a contract like that.
Don’t marry!
Wow. I have nothing to say. Two failed marriages. I am not getting married again, although I still believe in the old fashioned notion.
ReplyDeleteSo if all the gals (ideally) do not have any premarital sex whatsoever, then who will the guys be having sex with?
ReplyDeleteSTDs are going nuclear on us; nature is trying to tell us something and we should start listening! No premarital sex for ANYONE should be the goal.
(if a person wants to eliminate that pesky libido, anti-depressives can help)
Respectfully,
Celibate Person
Who said anything about "all?" The only gals who NEED to be celibate (or close to it) are the ones who hope to attract high quality, commitment-minded guys.
DeleteEliminate "pesky" libido??? MORE artificial social engineering that makes us behave LESS like the humans we are?
No thanks.
Okay…so we have a pool of “sluts” available for the fellas to practice on? Gotcha! Like I’ve always said…patriarchy depends on having a certain number of sluts to toss on the burning pile.
ReplyDelete“…analogy doesn’t apply to men because in terms of relationships, women don’t care about gum. the more chewed the gum, obviously the better it is since everyone wants a piece."
Personally, I don’t think “manwhores” (I’m hearing that term more and more, btw) could really be considered high quality husband material for young virgin women; they’re going to be jaded, bitter, and unable to be faithful to one woman, more often than not.
Celibate Person
"Patriarchy" depends on having a certain number of men to literally die for it (most of whom would be far better off on some figurative "burning pile.")
DeleteGosh, those poor oppressed women! The sacrifices they make!
"Personally, I don’t think “manwhores”..."
Really? Why don't you go out and preach your opinion of "manwhores" to the gazillion women who compete for their sperm? Sexually experienced men (experienced to varying degrees, of course) have on average, higher "sexual (and marriage) marketplace value" than sexually inexperienced men. Older, more stable men ARE considered high quality husband material for young virgin women, unless those men are mousy and submissive - the kind perceived to be unable to get laid!
Re-read the article. Women follow other women's lead. If twenty women are panting after the same man, OTHER women will perceive him to be more attractive. This isn't theory, it's fact - it's human nature. Ignore it if you want, but don't be surprised when it comes back and bites you in the ass.
Which is my original point, and part of Danny's point as well. His female friend was surprised by his revelation, because she lives in a world dominated by feminist dogma, that dogma being: "Men and women are supposed to be the same, so why won't men get with the program and start thinking (assigning values) like women? Dudez must be retarded." You can argue til you're blue in the face about what you think SHOULD be, but it won't change what IS. Suit yourself.
I guess I've never gotten with "The Program." I think EAS is very desirable, but not because every other woman chases after him. He's desirable because he only wants me.
ReplyDeleteLove,
Janie
No Janie, you never bought into the "boys are stupid. throw rocks at them" mentality of feminism. But gals like us are dinosaurs - we weren't trained form infancy to want and expect some ridiculously unrealistic standard of "perfection." Modern women pity us at best, because in their eyes, we "settled" for "less" than we should have. Yet they're the ones who are miserable...
DeleteI was miserable when I was married, but it was because he's crazy and wouldn't take his medication.
DeleteLove,
Janie
Yes, You didn't blame all men for his stupidity, you blamed only him. You knew (or you had to learn) that wasn't normal; these days women expect their husbands to be (or to become) losers, because well, "boys are stupid," so why would you expect them to grow into worthy men?
DeleteModern women may respect INDIVIDUAL men, but they don't respect men in general; they assume that "worthy" men are the ones who have somehow "overcome" their innate masculine stupidity.