Pick a Side; the Gender War is Heating Up

Throughout most of my life, I have despised women's mind games.  I've bitched about their manipulation of men and each other; it's counterproductive and wrong, sometimes flat-out evil.  For many women it has become a dominant part of their personalities, simply out of habit.  Beware, ladies.  The boys are on to you, and they're sharing their knowledge behind your backs.  And I have to admit, I'm just shallow enough to be cheering on the sidelines while your chickens come home to roost.  Decent women, stop ignoring your better angels in order to follow the herd.  Those broads are heading for a cliff, and you don't want to go with them.  I have found a community that sees women the way I do, and has figured out a way to do something about their crap.


For about a year now, I've been stumbling across links to articles from "The Manosphere," and recently I've started following a very good blog: Dalrock. http://dalrock.wordpress.com/
I'm fascinated and delighted by "men's rights" and "game" sites.  I never had much use for the way women generally think, and I find male perspectives on relationships to be refereshing and honest!  I like Dalrock because he's pretty wise, very well informed, and extremely logical.  He rarely makes ambiguous statements.  He also lets comment discussions run without  much interference.  I've only detected one bias on his part, a leaning toward Biblical morality rather than rational morality.  That said, he's plenty critical of how modern Christianity misuses the Bible, so I suspect he's pretty careful not to misuse it himself.  I see no hypocrisy in his posts.

What's really fun is the comments section.  I'm grateful to a commenter for referring me to "The Mysandry Bubble" on the site - The Futurist. http://www.singularity2050.com/2010/01/the-misandry-bubble.html Outstanding comprehensive article.  I'm still wading through the "required reading," comments included, so it's taking me a while, but everyone should read that article.  Men are wising up and opting out of the bullshit.  It's about time.  Anyone who doesn't pay attention to what's going on in the Manosphere, is going to be totally blindsided sometime in the next decade or so.

Anytestoserone, the vast majority of Dalrock's commenters are bright, observant and rational, but not all of them.  I'm sure in many cases it's a matter of youth (because I'm so  old and wise, you know) but I'm seeing comments that precisely mirror the feminist themes I grew up on.  Women are not made to feel welcome in the discussions, for a number of reasons.  The main one seems to be that feminine manipulation simply will not be tolerated, and quite a few women have tried it.  I guess they're tired of us, and who can blame them?  However, I wish some of them could see how much they sound like the very feminists they so despise.  A dominant myth among some of these guys is the assumption that women are not capable of non-emotional, rational thought, yet these same men get rather emotional and irrational in their expression of this assumption.  (And no, I'm not singling anyone out, just in case you gentlemen bother to read my frivolous blog...)  Uh, news flash, most of us are capable of logic, we generally just have to work harder at it and many of us would rather not.  (No consequences, why bother?) These men are angry, and with good reason, but by demonizing all women, they are ignoring anthropology and biology, just like feminism does.  Of course men and women think differently, and by and large, women let emotion get in the way of logic and foresight.  We were designed that way to complement each other, not to become enemies.  Men are beginning to make a habit of this foolishness, but make no mistake, we women started it. 

One of the dumbest things feminism ever did was to tell women that men are the enemy, because men can't comprehend the female perspective.  The individual message was: ignore men, manipulate them, degrade them, use them.  Never respect men because they just don't get it.  The political message was worse: remain "independent" of them, but don't hesitate to game the system and collect alimony, child support, welfare, food stamps, WIC, and subsidized housing from them.  I always believed that's where feminism failed.  A hundred years ago the goal of feminism was equality.  Equal rights are supposed to include equal responsibilities, but I guess that's not what most women really wanted, because feminism guilted the system into going from one type of inequality to another.  Now it's men who are under women's thumbs.  I support the backlash 100%.  For every lazy, abusive, entitled man, there's at least one lazy, abusive, entitled woman.  We all know them.  The difference is that men end up paying not only for their own bad choices, they pay for women's bad choices as well.  All productive people pay.

Many, MANY young men are "going their own way," becoming confirmed bachelors and players, and women are going to start feeling the pinch when they run out of men willing to support their watch-me-roar "independence."  Women who continue to refute their anthropological/biological role of "supportive helpmate and responsible partner,"  are going to grow old alone.  And not by choice.  I have nothing but admiration for genuinely independent women, but I don't want to be one.  Neither do most women; the desire to reproduce is very strong - who in God's name would make such sacrifices for rational reasons?  Most of us gals really REALLY want the benefits of having a family, but we refuse to "pay" for them by committing to a solid marriage, which is the primary foundation of a family.  Somebody told us we didn't have to.  It was a lie and it's going to catch up to us.  For everybody's sake, I hope these men get past their anger without doing the same damage to society that "angry women" did.