Just Among Us Gals

Menopause runs early in my family, and I've been in the "peri-" stage for about 8 years.  Up til now it has not been a big deal, but dang!   For the past couple of months my so-what's-the-big-fuss-all-about hot flashes have suddenly evolved into little thermo-nuclear meltdowns!!!  Lordy am I glad it's not summer!

Oh, Look. More Gender Politics

(This was a comment I made over at Dalrock's blog)

 "Not only are we Disney Princesses, we are Smart Modern Disney Princesses(!) as well. We are destined to marry Prince Charming, and we’re magically empowered to transform any man into Prince Charming. (That’s the “kissing a frog” part of the story.) We forge a suit of armor during our childhood, and as adults we go down to central casting and grab a guy who looks the part, then cram him into that armor. We kiss and kiss and kiss for a while, but the frog never becomes a prince. When the seams start to tear out because the armor doesn’t fit, we discard the man (excuse me, the “frog who hoodwinked us”), keep the suit of armor, and go looking for the REAL Prince Charming. Oh, and by the way, this process takes work, patience and dedication, which (hello!) are Virtues! And Gosh! This IS the real world, after all. Life can be hard! How can you begrudge us a roof over our heads while we are on this epic quest to fulfill our destiny? I mean, SOMEBODY has to do it, right?

A surplus of survival resources + feminism + mass media + the emotion-dominated female brain = a sheltered fairy-tale existence for approximately 50% of the population."

And sadly, that "sheltered fairy-tale existence" is almost entirely in our heads.  It's what we're dreaming of as we struggle to make ends meet between men.  It's much less frightening to daydream than it is to end the cycle we have created.  We deny our responsibility in our failed relationships (choosing a bad mate, denigrating a potentially good mate instead of supporting his potential.)  Yes, some men are very good at hiding their lack of potential, but we do tend to ignore even the smallest red flags.  And when some men veer off the path smack in the middle of an ordinary relationship, there really was nothing we could have done to prevent it.  But for the most part, we sabotage our relationships out of impatience, instead of committing to improve them, and we can afford to do this because someone else will help pay the bills while we "regroup" to start again from scratch.  What a pathetic waste.  Feminism has been redefined, not to make us legally equal, but to allow us to be children who pretend we are "the same" as men.  Only better.


Face it.  Most mature true alphas became alphas while married to supportive women.  A smart woman doesn't go for the player who looks like an alpha, she goes for the beta who is on the alpha track.  It takes a little time to distinguish between a confirmed beta and an alpha-to-be beta, but it's worth the effort.  99% of the time, the guy you want to marry is already married to a smart girl who took a chance, did her homework on him, and did everything in her power to build his confidence and reward his progress.  Good men don't exist in a vacuum - Prince Charming doesn't ride a white horse out of your dreams and into your life.  If your hackles are raised at the thought of  "humbling yourself" enough to be a supportive wife, don't expect your beta to become an alpha, or your player to reform.  Ain't gonna happen.

Epic Cookies

I finally did it.  It was epic because it took about 10 hours throughout 3 days.  I hope the damn things aren't stale.  Tomorrow I'll vacuum-pack and send them to Lance Criminal, then I'm going to make apple jelly (cooked and strained them yesterday.)  I'm off work until next Tuesday, so I'm pretending to be a domestic goddess.


Ta daaa!   : 

A Meme! No Really!

I just gotta get in on this one.  The top 25 songs on my playlist:

1. Still the Night - BoDeans
2. Smokin' in the Boys Room - Brownsville Station
3. Thank U - Alanis Morrissette
4. Sweet Emotion - Aerosmith
5. I'm Gonna Be (500 miles) - The Proclaimers
6. Superman - REM
7. Love My Way - Psychedelic Furs
8. Silver, Blue and Gold - Bad company
9. Should I Stay or Should I Go - The Clash
10. When the Levee Breaks - Led Zeppelin
11. Hourglass - Squeeze
12. Don't Break My Heart - UB40
13. Wipe Out - Surfaris
14. Desert Rose - Sting
15. And She Was - Talking Heads
16. Sausalito Summer Nights - Diesel
17. Good Intentions - Toad the Wet Sprocket
18. Totally Nude - The Wallets
19. Generals and Majors - XTC
20. Blueboy - John Fogerty
21. World in My Eyes - Depeche Mode
22. Peaches and Diesel - Eric Clapton
23. Roam - B52's
24. I Will - Brandi Carlyle
25. Biko - Peter Gabriel

No apologies.  I'm  a freak.

Circle-link

Ami. Mental.  linked my last post and has a good discussion going on.  Check it out.

http://amimental.blogspot.com/2011/12/so-i-was-pondering-this-weekend.html

Pick a Side; the Gender War is Heating Up

Throughout most of my life, I have despised women's mind games.  I've bitched about their manipulation of men and each other; it's counterproductive and wrong, sometimes flat-out evil.  For many women it has become a dominant part of their personalities, simply out of habit.  Beware, ladies.  The boys are on to you, and they're sharing their knowledge behind your backs.  And I have to admit, I'm just shallow enough to be cheering on the sidelines while your chickens come home to roost.  Decent women, stop ignoring your better angels in order to follow the herd.  Those broads are heading for a cliff, and you don't want to go with them.  I have found a community that sees women the way I do, and has figured out a way to do something about their crap.


For about a year now, I've been stumbling across links to articles from "The Manosphere," and recently I've started following a very good blog: Dalrock. http://dalrock.wordpress.com/
I'm fascinated and delighted by "men's rights" and "game" sites.  I never had much use for the way women generally think, and I find male perspectives on relationships to be refereshing and honest!  I like Dalrock because he's pretty wise, very well informed, and extremely logical.  He rarely makes ambiguous statements.  He also lets comment discussions run without  much interference.  I've only detected one bias on his part, a leaning toward Biblical morality rather than rational morality.  That said, he's plenty critical of how modern Christianity misuses the Bible, so I suspect he's pretty careful not to misuse it himself.  I see no hypocrisy in his posts.

What's really fun is the comments section.  I'm grateful to a commenter for referring me to "The Mysandry Bubble" on the site - The Futurist. http://www.singularity2050.com/2010/01/the-misandry-bubble.html Outstanding comprehensive article.  I'm still wading through the "required reading," comments included, so it's taking me a while, but everyone should read that article.  Men are wising up and opting out of the bullshit.  It's about time.  Anyone who doesn't pay attention to what's going on in the Manosphere, is going to be totally blindsided sometime in the next decade or so.

Anytestoserone, the vast majority of Dalrock's commenters are bright, observant and rational, but not all of them.  I'm sure in many cases it's a matter of youth (because I'm so  old and wise, you know) but I'm seeing comments that precisely mirror the feminist themes I grew up on.  Women are not made to feel welcome in the discussions, for a number of reasons.  The main one seems to be that feminine manipulation simply will not be tolerated, and quite a few women have tried it.  I guess they're tired of us, and who can blame them?  However, I wish some of them could see how much they sound like the very feminists they so despise.  A dominant myth among some of these guys is the assumption that women are not capable of non-emotional, rational thought, yet these same men get rather emotional and irrational in their expression of this assumption.  (And no, I'm not singling anyone out, just in case you gentlemen bother to read my frivolous blog...)  Uh, news flash, most of us are capable of logic, we generally just have to work harder at it and many of us would rather not.  (No consequences, why bother?) These men are angry, and with good reason, but by demonizing all women, they are ignoring anthropology and biology, just like feminism does.  Of course men and women think differently, and by and large, women let emotion get in the way of logic and foresight.  We were designed that way to complement each other, not to become enemies.  Men are beginning to make a habit of this foolishness, but make no mistake, we women started it. 

One of the dumbest things feminism ever did was to tell women that men are the enemy, because men can't comprehend the female perspective.  The individual message was: ignore men, manipulate them, degrade them, use them.  Never respect men because they just don't get it.  The political message was worse: remain "independent" of them, but don't hesitate to game the system and collect alimony, child support, welfare, food stamps, WIC, and subsidized housing from them.  I always believed that's where feminism failed.  A hundred years ago the goal of feminism was equality.  Equal rights are supposed to include equal responsibilities, but I guess that's not what most women really wanted, because feminism guilted the system into going from one type of inequality to another.  Now it's men who are under women's thumbs.  I support the backlash 100%.  For every lazy, abusive, entitled man, there's at least one lazy, abusive, entitled woman.  We all know them.  The difference is that men end up paying not only for their own bad choices, they pay for women's bad choices as well.  All productive people pay.

Many, MANY young men are "going their own way," becoming confirmed bachelors and players, and women are going to start feeling the pinch when they run out of men willing to support their watch-me-roar "independence."  Women who continue to refute their anthropological/biological role of "supportive helpmate and responsible partner,"  are going to grow old alone.  And not by choice.  I have nothing but admiration for genuinely independent women, but I don't want to be one.  Neither do most women; the desire to reproduce is very strong - who in God's name would make such sacrifices for rational reasons?  Most of us gals really REALLY want the benefits of having a family, but we refuse to "pay" for them by committing to a solid marriage, which is the primary foundation of a family.  Somebody told us we didn't have to.  It was a lie and it's going to catch up to us.  For everybody's sake, I hope these men get past their anger without doing the same damage to society that "angry women" did.  

It Was a Very Merry Christmas

I had my Christmas a couple of weeks ago, although BH is putting together a big old ham dinner for this afternoon.

                                                     This was my present:

                                                                               
         Doesn't get any better.

$7,000,000,000

Vote 'em out.


Senator Coburn released his nearly 100 page report on incredibly wasteful spending by Congress and their lackeys. In it he details $7,000,000,000 of obvious fraud and waste. Read this.... read it right before you vote... and remember.... the incumbent probably voted to spend YOUR MONEY on this crap.


http://thegregariousloner.blogspot.com/2011/12/senator-coburn-released-his-nearly-100.html

Canine Railroad

I did a dog transport yesterday, my first in a few months.  I've had to turn down a few recently, since they fell on My Saturday At Work.  Red was a cool Brittany, and he really was red.  Most of his white fur had a reddish undercoat.  (Dare I call him "Pink?")  Britts have too much energy for me to keep one, but I can say without reservation that the softest thing on earth is the chest fur on a Brittany.

(not Red, but adorable anyway, eh?)

A friend once told me she thinks these transport networks are inefficient.  Horsefeathers.  Moving unwanted pets from "kill shelters" to foster and permanent homes is a huge undertaking.  Just ask Coffeepot.  For an individual to do it alone requires lots of resources that most of us don't have - a van, cages, leashes, water (and sometimes food) dishes, gas and lodging money, and time, to name a few.  Joining a cross-country network, however, is something almost anyone can do.  Some networks are oriented, but not restricted, to specific breeds.  Some of them are OTR truckers, and some of them are private pilots.  Some transports include one or two dogs, some include half a dozen or more (Kudos to Jude and Rich!)  Each leg of a transport is usually limited to a couple of hours or less.  If you include travel time to and from home, it's as little as a half day's work, plus a half a tank of gas.  It's only the route coordinators who put in huge amounts of time and effort.

This is something I can do, fairly easily, on a regular basis.  


Every single weekend, dozens of ordinary, busy people like me are saving the lives of a few hundred dogs and cats.  What could be more efficient and humane?  This is the heart and soul of grass-roots activism.  Count me in.

Sharing! Warning: political rant

...Because I'm so damn tired of the Republicrat Demopublican Party.  This nation will fall apart if they stay in power.  We have three choices:
1.)  Stand by an watch this unprecedented acceleration of a corrupt government stealing our rights and our resources, which will lead to...
2.)  Armed rebellion.  Don't kid yourself; has anyone alive seen this nation as out of control as it is now?  We. Are. In. Uncharted. Territory.
3.)  Stop violating the Constitution and vote the incumbents out of office.

No matter what your party tells you about that bogeyman called "the other guy," your party is the exact same thing.  Your party is the bogeyman.  Nothing is going to get better while the bogeyman is in power.  If you don't take your nation back, someone else will take it over.  That someone will be a mutant form of the current bogeyman.

http://www.dailypaul.com/192613/this-video-is-the-deal-changer-urgent-message-from-the-troops-revised-help-this-go-viral


I personally take issue with Paul's views on abortion laws, but even that is no longer as important as breaking up the government's deathgrip on it's own corruption.  As far as I'm concerned, we can no longer afford the luxury of partisan issues.  We can sort that shit out later.  It's us against Washington.  Period.

The Rabid Independent has spoken.

Upon Further Investigation...

I do not have macular degeneration!!!!!


It appears I had "Central Serous Retinopathy,"  and the remaining scars look like MD.  "Central serous retinopaty generally occurs in young men, causing distortion of central vision due to fluid under the macula and typically resolves over several months without treatment," according to the flier the specialist gave me.  I'll have to do a bit more reading, but this is GREAT!!!  All my news seems to be good these days...I hope this trend continues!

( I also had a nice lunch out with Lance Criminal, and he gave me some "small arms" advice.  He's going to give me some formal training on his next leave.)

The Quality of Young Men These Days

So.  In case you ladies are wondering where all the good ones are, try driving through through the passenger pick-up area at an airport at 11:30 on a Friday night.  'Cause, WOW!  You just would not believe what I found!  And hell yes, I brought him home!

You know, we have been communicating regularly via phone and Facebook, but it's been almost a year since I have hugged Lance Criminal.  I'm truly amazed at the change in him.  OK, maybe not "change," so much as "maturity."  He seems taller, for one thing, and he has developed that calm, innate confidence that drew me to his father so many years ago.  You see, I was a little concerned that The Corps might bring out some unattractive traits in him.  Cockiness.  Rule-playing.  Some Marines are assholes after all, and they do influence their peers.  I see a lot of potential for becoming an asshole simply as a defense mechanism.  Also, since he enjoys his solitude and likes to think for himself, I wondered if the highly structured environment in the military might beat down his spirit.  (He has certainly experienced his fair share of disillusionment, as he has learned the reality of Marine life.)

Hasn't happened.

I'm still not thrilled that he volunteered to change units so he could go overseas, but so far I like the results.  He's learning and doing tasks well outside of his MOS, and he is surrounded by more mature, experienced Marines - better role models.  This is an ideal environment  for his personality; even in his old unit, most of his friends were a little older - he was the "young guy."  He is now even less likely to be held back by the shenanigans of kids for whom responsibility does not come naturally.  Not that he's an uptight sticker or a prude, he just doesn't have much interest in pursuing pointless or counterproductive behavior.

I have to admit I was a thirtysomething married mom by the time I had developed the relatively steady maturity he is showing at 19.  Again, wow.

(Yes, I'm biased.  So sue me.)

As for me, I'm a little PO'ed over my health.  I haven't slept well this past week, and I've been doing a lot of extra housework.  Yesterday my legs started feeling a little weak.  With Lance Criminal home, Christmas fast approaching, and Better Half preparing too move to D.C, this is NOT a good time for me to have another bout of fibro-fatigue.  Maybe I'll call the doctor to see about upping the Cymbalta and getting a scrip for Ambien.  I haven't needed it for a couple of years, but realistically, this is probably a bad time to try to skate by.  Why do I always second guess myself when it comes to being proactive on my own behalf?