Herding Hamsters

More fodder for the book and the blog.  The Letter has garnered almost 12,000 pageviews, and the comments are a goldmine of research topics.  Furthermore, they are helping me organize and prioritize my thoughts.  At first I was a little worried that some of the "objections" to my themes would actually be legitimate and logical.  I should have known better; if A Voice for Men, with thousands of readers, can't get a feminist to engage in reasoned debate (Challenge Unanswered) why would I?

Anyhamsterfest, here's another epic logical fail of a comment from the cushy land of make-believe, and my response to it:

Miss Kae OzNovember 30, 2012 1:52 AM

"DO NOT, under any circumstances, repress your sexuality. Your foremothers fought hard for your right to be promiscuous with no consequences; don’t you dare let their efforts go to waste. And since you’re not looking for a husband, there’s no need to sleep with only “good” men, is there? ‘Cuz badboyz are hawt! And nice guys are boring. Additionally, you have plenty of time to ride the best cocks you can find;"
Agreed! Oh wait. You meant this as a bad thing. Oh well, toe-may-toe/toe-mah-toe.
But if I am having all this sex, how am I also going to bed alone with my vibrator? And why is it it is the long term married women I know whose only sex is the vibrator and feel painfully alone and not the single women I know?

"Men are dropping out, Ladies. "
YOUR version of men, and it is about friggin time. We have been working over a century to get out from underneath the Neanderthal mentality and them finally dropping out will make it much easier for us all to finally try to achieve the ideal of being treated as human instead of a monogamous whore/hand maid bought and paid for by the man having the career we wish we had. Thank you for finally stopping pushing us back down on and stepping out of the way to make room for us at eye level with those not born and bred to have a limited view of our societal value.

The one thing that we do agree on is how the Patriarchy has been negative for men. The gender role ideals it perpetuates limits mens potential and gifts as much as womens. I do not agree that it has better for woman. Selling your independence for financial security is just a form of slavery. I would rather be a free pauper than a slave with a gilded cage. It is bad for both men and women. Men and women are so much more than the gender roles created in the days of Leave it to Beaver that try to pretend they have always been. We should not be born into boxes based on our genitals. We should each be able to explore individual potential.

p.s.
I have a hard time believing this is written by a female. The voice sounds distinctly male, especially when talking about sex. Just the tone.

*****

My response:    

You didn't read much of this page, did you?  Or are your reading comprehension skills really that poor?

So are you a Shero or a Booblet?  Tell me, if feminism is so pro-male, why is its root spelled f-e-m?  Oooh!  Oooh! I know!  Because it likes only feminine men?

I'm not going to be dragged into a middle-school (read: "girly") debate of inconsequential minutiae, but I will address a bit of the myth upon which your assumptions are based.

First off, read this:

http://shiningpearlsofsomething.blogspot.com/2012/08/womens-equality-day.html

Now, if feminism isn't anti-male, why are the results of MAINSTREAM feminism so repressive (dare I say "oppressive?") of men?

"But if I am having all this sex, how am I also going to bed alone with my vibrator?"

...again, reading comprehension?

You'll be able to have all the sex you want while you're young and supple, but along about 30-ish, when you're ready to "settle down,"  you will NOT be impressed by the caliber of men who are still interested in you used-up pussy.  Sex first, vibrator later.  M'kay?  Oh, and your female friend in a sexless marriage?  Either she's abnormal or he's abnormal.  Note the prefix "ab."  Outliers do not represent the norm.  I understand this is hard for indoctrinated femmies to understand, because your entire ideology is based upon the preferences of a minority of women, but try to stretch your atrophied brain.  Plus, I know, math is hard.

"We have been working over a century to get out from underneath the Neanderthal mentality"

Be careful what you wish for, dearie.  That neanderthal mentality is why you don't live in a grass hut, and aren't likely to die young.  I know you think masculine men are a pain in the ass, but masculine men pay most of your bills, one way or another, unless you are a VERY unusual woman.  If you have a high-paying private sector job, there is probably at least a half dozen men better qualified than you, who were denied that job so that it could be given to a woman, regardless of merit.  Unless of course you work in the sort of field that doesn't attract many men.  Then again, most of those fields are NOT well paid, but a few are.  And most of the female-centric fields that ARE highly paid, are almost entirely dependent upon either the income of the clientele's husbands, or upon the income of a clientele whose jobs are dependent on affirmative action or direct taxpayer funding.  Big fish, small pond.  The pond would dry up without "neanderthals."

It is that "neanderthal mentality" which keeps you safe when you leave home (built by men.)  That's right.  The majority of law enforcement officers (who often commit violence against men at your command) are men who chose their field because of their strong protective instincts. 

It is that "neanderthal mentality" which motivated men to build the cars/trains/buses you use to navigate the streets in relative safety, so you don't have to be exposed to the weather and to human predators on your way to work. 

It is that "neanderthal mentality" which built the government that collects the taxes and provides public sector jobs where women don't have to compete with men for employment.

Use your imagination.  Or better yet, hire a (male, armed) bodyguard and travel to a third world country where women AND MEN are not protected by government, from either the harsh realities of nature, or from human predators.  Try to visualize a world where YOU, and maybe a band of your pals, are responsible for every single aspect of your survival.  (And keep in mind that your "enemies" have plenty of pals as well.)  You might survive, but you would likely not prosper.  without the protection of those "neanderthals," people who are smarter, stronger, more ambitious, and more organized than you, would be helping themselves to your survival resources - so THEY could survive.

Feminism wants you to think that it's some sort of humanist ideal, but it simply could not exist if those "neanderthals" did not permit it.  Feminism is a social construct; it is a fantasy.  It's a totally cool swing set and fort in one's parents' securely fenced back yard.  It's a playhouse with a plastic tea set in the playroom.  Not one single aspect of feminism could exist without the protection of those who have the "neanderthal mentality." 

Are men perfect?  No.  Is it always fun to be supportive of the men who keep you warm and well-fed.  Hell no!  It's a fucking chore!  That's right, it's WORK, and it doesn't always feeeeeel rewarding.  (That's the true nature of work and you'd know that if you didn't live under the cozy protection of "neanderthals.")  Work is what gets you from one end of life to the other, and some days, work sucks.  The difference between men and women in modern society, is that women actually have the choice to avoid the most unpleasant types of work,

and men don't.

Men suck it up and do their share because nobody is going to do it for them.  Then they suck it up further and do most women's share - either because the government will jail them if the don't (and pay for it with their own tax dollars) or because they want a family and they understand that that (often sucky, unrewarding) WORK is required to support a family.

Miss Kae, I would guess that you are an urban or suburban teen or twentysomething who has never been responsible for much of anything (except maybe studying hard to succeed in the schools built and paid for by "neanderthals," and perhaps missing a few parties to work at a relatively easy job.)  Sadly, it's also possible that you are a chronologically mature woman who has the mentality of a suburban teen.  You see, there are plenty such women in existence because they have been sheltered from responsibility by "neanderthals."

"I have a hard time believing this is written by a female. The voice sounds distinctly male..."

Thank you.