Saturday, February 11, 2012
The White Knight
"the white knight sees his service to the weaker vessel as good and pure"
This one grabbed me. I have a problem with the concept of "weaker vessel," but not because it's inherently chauvinistic. Christianity puts a moral spin on a natural truth. Women's essential "weakness" is our biological need for greater security (hypergamy) combined with our emotional volatility (which inhibits our ability to rationally prioritize our needs.) The moral implication is that we should either be condemned for it, or protected from it, because it is inherently BAD. The Christian model assumes that we are like young children, incapable of using our nature responsibly without being micromanaged. The result is that Christianity doesn't hold women accountable - we can't help it. The white knight believes it's his duty to protect every woman from herself. In reality, if he would lead her she would choose to follow, but he believes she's incapable of following. Therefore he ties her to his apron strings to keep her "safe."
Ironically, white knights are actually the very worst sort of "male chauvinist pigs," due to the depth of their blind condescension. No wonder we secretly despise them. We're drawn to men who lead and give us the OPTION to follow or not, and who allow us to suffer the consequences if we make the wrong choices. Consequences are what motivate us to make the right choices.
Today, Empathologicalism published a wonderful analogy, defining the White Knight as (literally) a tool, a useful idiot.
"White knights are driven be ego as much as the most raw alpha male. White knights think they have a sort of game, that self effacement of men by men is seen as courageous, and rewarded as such by women. This is particularly effective on the internet, or in large groups such as church congregations or seminars where there are mixed gender audiences. These men conflate female approval with having insight into how to comport with females. These men are worse than Pavlovian.
But the positive feedback they get is actually making them all the more pathetic. They do not garner anything real. The nature of the compliments they receive from women are like the comments a man makes as he walks past a display of cool new power tools at Lowe’s."